Book Review: The Fantasy Fallacy by Shannon Ethridge

Are you all caught up in the recent 50 shades books? Well, in response to these novels Shannon Ethridge, a certified life coach came with a religious sideline. She feels greatly that sexual fantasies such as gay/lesbian tendencies, sad-masochism and other sexual curiosities are actually a result of psychological pain from the past. For example, if you were mistreated in the past your mind may sub-consciously turn those hurtful emotions into sexual desire and the pain craved by some is a way to release the emotional strain. I don't entirely find myself a religious individual, but I do understand what Shannon is saying in her novel and it makes sense for those who do believe, and well it gave me some things to ponder on as well. While the reviews for 50 shades have been slaughtered as being an amazing read to its pornography in type, its trash its so abusive! I wasn't sure which books I should read first. I am currently on the 2nd of the 50 shades trilogy and am rather enjoying it. Ethridge takes many misconceptions and transforms them into real life situations for the reader using bible verses to back up her statements. Are our fantasies really because we are fallen from Adam and Eve? I don't know, but I think there can be multiple reasons as to why your mind is curious and interested in varying sexual activities. Shannon takes on an open-mind while exploring these fantasies which is a great accomplishment on her part, to be able to decipher so many fantasies into a real life situation and relate it to the bible in an open vocabulary even the novice to the bible can interpret left a great impression on me. She does not take sides in her explorations yet offers suggestions as to how to turn your mind away from these unwanted desires in your marriage. For example, if you have thoughts of cheating on your husband/wife which could potentially ruin a perfect marriage, break down your thoughts and reason with yourself. Is this one night stand or move worth ruining your current relation? Anything can be perceived in so many ways, especially if you take the time to dissect your thoughts right down to the bare facts and where these thoughts are coming from. Revenge? Did your partner do something to really ignite your anger? than that is no reason to engage in sexual encounters with another! So personally I rate this book with 3 stars...mid spectrum since it didn't entirely speak out to me, It was a well written piece with lots of great points to ponder. All followed with suggested readings, personal stories and bible verses to back up any statements made. Check out Shannon Ethridge for yourself!